Long and Healthy...

I think the best part about my relationship with Bear is that we aren't looking to complete each other. We aren't looking for one another to make the other happy.

Over the last year, we have worked to do that ourselves. And because of that our relationship is much more enriching. We are two individuals coming together, choosing to be with one another despite the trials we have been put through over the last year and we are choosing to love again and trust in each other.

We don't bring the baggage from our last relationships to the table and expect that the other change to fit whatever mold it is we think we need. We add to each others' happiness...never taking away or completing. We are also set on continuing to hold onto our goals.

I think it is so important to hold onto the goals you have set for yourself before being in a relationship and not loose track of them.

For example, shark diving. I want to go shark diving, which is something Bear does not share with me. And I would never want him to force himself to go with me, if that is something he has no desire to do. In the same token, I don't want to give up this dream because it's something my partner does not want to do.

Of course, I want to develop dreams and goals with Bear that we can accomplish together, but what I want most if for us, as individuals, is to never lose sight of who we are...to never give up on what we want to accomplish...and to always seek happiness....and always add to each others' happiness. 

I believe if we can do this, we can have a very long and healthy relationship.